At first, Georgianne threw herself into the job of parenting the two children who came to live with her and her new husband. â€œThe first year I was really game and gung-ho about it. I cheerfully drove to soccer practice.
I went to fundraisers at school. But all of a sudden I realized, â€˜This is crazy.â€™ I am the primary breadwinner in the family. I outearn my husband three to one. I canâ€™t be counted on for all of this. I was the one who got called by the school and had to go running if a kid missed a bus or they didnâ€™t do their homework.
My husband changed jobs and was working even more, and I was left holding the bag. I was here with them on the weekends taking care of them when I should have had time off. I finally sat my husband down and said, â€˜Our marriage is suffering.â€™â€ Part of the issues Georgianne and her husband were facing revolved around expectations: what her husband wanted her to do and what she expected herself to do.
After three years of living with Dad and Stepmom full-time, the children moved back in with their mother. â€œItâ€™s not because they are not loved here or wanted here, itâ€™s because I canâ€™t be expect ed to make those sacrifices for them. Itâ€™s mostly because my husband wasnâ€™t able to step up to the plate and take responsibility. Itâ€™s disappointing to me that this was his solution: â€˜Itâ€™s not working so weâ€™ll send them back to their mother.â€