â€œI got to know them oneon- one and they each made an effort. That was the key. They werenâ€™t â€˜The Kids.â€™ And they were all so hungry. They love their mother, but my stepson would just talk and talk and talk. I would need to change clothes and he would keep talking through the door. He was very open and they were all willing to just know me.â€
You first interview everyone and find out how things have been working before you begin implementing changes. Itâ€™s the same with stepfamilies. So take time to gather information before you demand allegiance from the kids. If you have more than one stepchild, itâ€™s easy to fall into the habit of treating the kids as if theyâ€™re in a pack.
You might be used to running the show at work, but when you start a job, you must learn the culture before you can be effective. You know when you take on a new client itâ€™s going to take time and work to get to a place where you trust each other.